Life with a new baby can be both joyful and challenging. As you adjust to feeding, managing on less sleep and a new routine, it’s normal to feel a bit overwhelmed at times.

Every family is different, and Beside You is here to help you to ease into breastfeeding your new baby while navigating your new lifestyle and commitments.

Here are some practical tips that can help you manage day-to-day life with a new baby:

  • prioritise rest and recovery – you’re recovering from birth and adjusting to a brand-new way of living. By prioritising rest and sleep, it will help you think more clearly and be fresher for each day
  • keep communication open – whether it’s your partner, family members or friends, be open about how you’re feeling. If you need space let them know, if you need help let them know. It’s only by talking will those around you know what you need, if you need anything
  • create a ‘new normal’ – give yourself the time to adjust to your new responsibilities and new way of going about your day. Accept that your old routine may no longer work for you anymore. Your baby’s needs will change as they grow, staying flexible while establishing a few routines, such as mealtimes, can help to maintain that little bit of normal
  • prioritise – decide what’s important for you each day. Sometimes, the laundry and housework can wait, and all that matters is you spending time with your little one
  • plan ahead – making a list and planning ahead for all the things you need for the day can help even the smallest task feel more manageable
  • batch cook – batch cooking can help save time on those days where you just don’t have the time to cook. It can help you to stay on track with eating well too, rather than reaching for the first snack when you’re hungry
  • learn to say no – you don’t always have to say yes to everything.
  • wear a sling – if you need to go out and about or get stuff done, try wearing a sling and still keep your baby close to you
  • accept help from friends and family – having an extra pair of hands, even for 10 minutes can help you save time. Having someone to look after your baby while you have a shower can help you to feel more refreshed and like ‘you’
  • take it a day at a time
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If you have older children, here are some things you can do to involve them with their younger sibling:

  • if they are old enough, talk to your older child about their little siblings
  • encourage them to interact with you bump and talk to your baby to help grow their brain and bond
  • involve your older child with choices you make around your new baby, such as choosing toys and nursery colours
  • if you are expecting lots of visitors once your baby arrives, keep them involved and try to ensure they are not left out when people bring gifts for your new baby
  • make a fuss of your older child when your new baby is home and involve them as big brother or sister

Managing breastfeeding, family life and involving older siblings

Breastfeeding a new baby can take time, especially when you’re just starting out. Your older child might feel left out when the focus is on their new sibling rather than fully having your attention, especially during feeds. They may feel a mix of emotions including excitement, frustration and jealousy. Some children may act up more, become clingier or be a little more attention seeking at times, and want to be involved in looking after their new sibling too.

Try to acknowledge their feelings and keep them involved. There are lots of ways to help your child feel included with their new sibling during feeds which help them to feel like they are a part of this journey and have a role to play in the family. It’s the little things that can all help to keep that close bond together between you.

Here are some things you could try:

  • give your child a task when you breastfeed, such as being responsible for passing you a muslin or nappy
  • create a little breastfeeding time routine, this could be anything from reading a story together to singing a nursery rhyme
  • use praise and encouragement. Acknowledge their efforts and let them know when they’re being helpful, including lots of cuddles too! This can help them feel important and connected to you.

I fed my eldest until she was nearly 4 years old. I fell pregnant when she was 3 and I fed her all through my pregnancy.

I knew I would breastfeed my second baby. We have bad days, but the good days far outweigh the bad.

Breastfeeding just works for us and our family.

Catherine

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